Preaching Sex From the Pulpit: Yes or No?


There is an ongoing debate concerning whether or not preachers ought to talk sex from the pulpit. Well, I’d like to add this point to the mix. According to a new study:

Children who are spanked or given some form of physical punishment by their parents may be more likely to have sexual problems as adults, a new study finds.

An analysis of four studies by Murray Straus, co-director of the Family Research Laboratory at the University of New Hampshire-Durham, found that children who suffer physical punishment in the form of spanking, hitting or slapping are more likely to engage in risky sexual behavior as adults, it is reported by USA Today.

The study, presented Thursday to the American Psychological Association, suggests that spanked children also are more likely to be “physically or verbally coercing” to a sexual partner and engage in masochistic sex, including arousal by spanking, later in life.

Or, for more click here: USA Today. Or, like I saw at another blog today, Ezekiel 23:20 is justification enough for talking about sex from the pulpit. It is important to talk about sex from the pulpit. Lord knows, Christians need to have a little more sex. Perhaps if Christians would talk more about sex, then we would have more sex, then we could have more Christians in the world without actually having to go out and make disciples. It’s just a thought.

Now we must, more than ever, talk about sex from the pulpit. It is so important that the people in the pew be told about sex from the pulpit by the preacher because if they are not they might experiment and learn things on their own. Children should NOT be taught about sex from their parents (I know, ‘what about all those poor children who have no parents to teach them?’ Yes, woe is they. Besides, I thought that was what the public school was for!) Sex ought to be an openly discussed aspect of our Christian faith. It should not be private, intimate moments between husbands and wives. It should not be between a husband and a wife. After all, Jesus came to give us not only lots of money (Kenneth Copeland, et al), lots of good health (Benny Hinn), lots of Israel (Hagee), but also lots of help in our sex lives (too many to count).

“Who can save me from this wretched body of sin? Well, thank God for Jesus who died for my sins so that I could have a great sex life and my preacher could tell me how!” (My paraphrase of Romans 7:24-25)

The world is in a sexual crisis just now. And now more than ever people need to hear the church’s voice on this matter. So preachers, here’s a challenge. Throw away that exegetical, doctrinal exposition of Romans or Genesis you were planning this week and dive into Song of Solomon: “Your breasts are like two fawns, like twin fawns of a gazelle that browse among the lilies” (4:5). Right now the world needs more Sex. Maybe if the world were taught about the good Ned Flanders version of Christian Sex they would stop indulging in so much empty sex. Everyone knows that sex is the root of the problem. The real battle is being fought in the bedroom. Dive into Ezekiel 23:20: “There she lusted after her lovers, whose genitals were like those of donkeys and whose emission was like that of horses.”

What more justification do we need? Everyone knows that most depictions of sexual encounters contained in Scripture are positive and for the instruction of the saints. Ezekiel proves that!

If the church would wake up, we could help. Just tell parents to stop disciplining their children, then their children won’t grow up to be sexual deviants. I remember a few spankings I had as a young boy. In fact, a couple of them came at the hands of a certain English teacher and a couple others at the hands of a certain principal and my parents. That probably explains a lot. 🙂


Stinking hacker! I don’t know who keeps hacking my blog, but I’m getting sick of it. Don’t you have something better to do? I’m sorry folks, but I don’t even have the technical skills to delete this rubbish. Anyhow, since it’s been hacked and there’s nothing I can do about it, consider this from Colossians 1:

For this reason, since the day we heard about you, we have not stopped praying for you and asking God to fill you with the knowledge of his will through all spiritual wisdom and understanding. 10And we pray this in order that you may live a life worthy of the Lord and may please him in every way: bearing fruit in every good work, growing in the knowledge of God, 11being strengthened with all power according to his glorious might so that you may have great endurance and patience, and joyfully 12giving thanks to the Father, who has qualified you to share in the inheritance of the saints in the kingdom of light. 13For he has rescued us from the dominion of darkness and brought us into the kingdom of the Son he loves, 14in whom we have redemption, the forgiveness of sins” (Colossians 1:9-14, NIV).

I think what the church needs to ask itself is this: Will conversations from the pulpit about such things as sex in any way help us ‘grow in the knowledge of God’? I am not saying there is no place for honest discussions about sexuality among Christians or even in the church. I am simply asking if the pulpit is the place for such ‘conversations’ to take place? It just seems to me that the crisis we are facing in our culture is one of over-stimulation of the sex-organs. I’m not certain that topical exposition of good sex techniques is the best way to bring people to a point where they cry out, “Brothers, what must we do to be saved?” Is this the sort of exegetical skills and exercise of spiritual gifts that will make people fall down and cry out, “God is really among you!” Nor I am certain that such expositions are going to in anyway alter the current insatiability of people’s sex drives. In other words, these sermons are not going to help matters, and they might just exacerbate them.

Those in the pulpit have a terrible and tremendous responsibility. It is terrible because if we truly approach Scripture as the Word of God, the Oracles of God, then we have to talk about some terrible truths: hell, human nature, sin, crucifixion and suchlike. It is terrible because it is a heavy burden to carry: we study, learn, grow, and first preach to ourselves. We have the singular responsibility of preaching the Word of God that brings people under conviction and judgment by the Word. It is a terrible burden to carry.

On the other hand, it is a tremendous responsibility! Who else has been given such a profound task, such a wonderful gift, such glorious wisdom–a charge and call from God Almighty!? This doesn’t mean that preachers are especially wonderful, it just means that not everyone is called to do what preachers do: Preach the Word of God. With such a tremendous responsibility comes a certain level of accountability. For example, I could probably make a very strong case that even the blessed Song of Solomon is only secondarily about sex. Preachers thus have the responsibility to make known the mysteries of God, the glories of Christ, and the wonders of the Spirit.

So my honest assessment is this: Preachers who make such topics the topic on Sunday mornings are taking the easy way out and they are short-changing the people they preach to. Christians are not charged with the responsibility of teaching the unbelieving world that once you become a Christian the sex is great, better, and without limits (within marriage). We are charged with proclaiming his mercies, his grace, his Word. Let married people figure out how to have sex or bring them in for private counseling. Encourage single people to remain chaste. Encourage homosexual people to remain celibate. Other than that, what needs to be said? Preachers, teach people about God. Tell people about the coming wrath and how to escape it. Tell people about the cross. Tell people about the crucifixion driven life. Explain the hard things of the Gospel to people who are desperately in need of hearing the Good News about Jesus. I say, preachers ought to leave sex where it should be anyhow: the bedroom. I see very little use in preaching sex from the pulpit.

If you have to advertise that your Sunday Morning sermon is rated ‘X’ then perhaps you really need to rethink what you are preaching or, better, why.

Soli Deo Gloria!



5 thoughts on “Preaching Sex From the Pulpit: Yes or No?

  1. ” Perhaps if Christians would talk more about sex, then we would have more sex, then we could have more Christians in the world without actually having to go out and make disciples. It’s just a thought.”


    Your article (and that of “the hacker’s”) is the best one on this topic, i’ve read on any of the blogs Jerry!


  2. PJ,

    Thanks for stopping by, and for the ping. I’m trying to understand the fascination…well, a certain part of it; the rest I well understand after 17 years of marriage. I’ll be interested to see if I get any negative feedback. That will be the fun part. Thanks again. I appreciate the feedback and encouragement.


  3. I certainly don’t think that sex ought to be the topic in the sense of “how to” or disengaged from Scripture but ought we not call out the sexual deviance in our culture, and dare I say churches, like the apostle Paul did to the Corinthian church? That is, I think we ought to shine the light of Christ on issues like fornication, adultery and pornography so that these things can be rendered powerless. As long as they remain in the darkness and in secret they remain powerful and crippling and the sin that easily entangles.

    I just had coffee with a student a couple weeks ago who is battling pornography and made the big step of getting his parents and me involved in the battle with him. He wants to somehow make it alright for other guys to acknowledge their struggle and somehow find help.

    Sex and death are the last two taboos in the church. Why are we scared to confront sexual sin? We ought to call it out AND give people skills and tools to overcome it.

    Like Paul says in Romans 7, there’s a war on and we ought to be fighting it.

    That’s not to say we ought to remove the discussion from Scripture but simply preach the Scriptures and preach hard when it comes up (Sermon on the Mount: adultery, lust and divorce; the letters to the Corinthian church; etc.).

    Soli Deo Gloria,

  4. Brian,

    Thanks for stopping by. I do not disagree with a single word you said, but I think you also agree that there is a clear distinction between what you are saying and those preachers who are doing exactly what you said ought not to be done.

    Sin is sin. And sin ought to be preached as such, whether it is sexual sin, alcohol sin, wife-beating sin, murder–whatever it is. What I am saying, and I think you know this, is that fighting the Romans 7 war is far different from opening up our pulpits to discussions of sexual technique and ‘how to have a better sex life with your spouse’ sermons. That is what I am opposed to.

    I agree with all my heart: There is a battle being waged in the flesh. Preachers have a responsibility to engage that battle with prayer and the Word (Acts 6, Eph 6). Thanks for stopping by. I’ll see you this week at class.

    your friend,

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